When I first started this blog I had aspirations of becoming the next big lifestyle blogging sensation. I loved all things fashion & beauty and aimed to put my opinions out there in the fashion blogging arena. The only problem is I never really had a “Lifestyle”. Like many teenage girls, I struggled with low self-esteem, negative self image and low confidence. Heavy, I know. There were friends in my life, but I never seemed to “fit” with my peers.
Over the past year since I left high school, I have read many books to gain insight on my spiritual self, the “inside” self. I realized I had some things to work through if I was ever going to truly happy. What brings me here you ask? Authenticity was something I needed to welcome into my life.
The concept of Definitive Living came to me when I thought about the aspects I loved about magazines. I wanted to parlay the blogging success into a future magazine for Women of Color—not just black women, but women of all ethnicities. I wanted to inspire women to feel beautiful regardless of what skin they were in. Of course, I felt that my dream was far away but possible. I started blogging about things I loved and I was really excited….for a while. I have a pattern of getting really motivated and then getting discouraged. This is normal for a lot of people except that I completely quit. I was done.
There is a renewed spark inside me to tell the truth and get it to the legions of young women feeling less than stellar. I am revamping the idea of Definitive Living and changing the angle of this blog. Definitive Living is about setting your goals and actively pursuing them. I want young women to feel confident, intelligent, beautiful and capable in the various stages of growing into the women you are meant to be. If I really want to change my life for the better, I am going to be more aggressive about it. I need to capture every piece of joy that Life has to offer. I am going to be my authentic self and refuse to back down. Courage means walking the walk even if you are afraid. What do you have to lose if you start where you are? DL
